Do you find yourself shrinking away from challenges?

This is a guest post by Drive Cambridge member David Brown, the founder and director of Potentiality Coaching 

Are there things that would help your business grow but you can’t bring your self to do them?

Do you feel anxious, scared or worried about taking on some of the challenges that would help your business develop?

 Mindset is a simple idea discovered by world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck in decades of research on achievement and success—a simple idea that makes all the difference. In a fixed mindset, people believe that qualities like intelligence or talent, are fixed. In a growth mindset, people believe that abilities can be developed. Because mindsets are no more than beliefs, they can be changed.  

I meet this issue time and again with my clients and with myself. What I have learned is that it is not the challenge itself, it is the mind- set or belief that you bring to the challenge that holds you back.

Co- active coaching is a style of coaching I use when working with clients and it has a formula to shake up this feeling of being stuck.

The formula works for any scenario, business or personal. Once you see it works for one thing, rinse and reuse whenever you want.

I’m going to use my own challenge of getting stuck about writing a book to explain how the formula works:

1. Clearly identify the challenge you want to deal with.

I am struggling with creating a structure for the book. What is your challenge? Be specific.

2. What does the challenge make you feel and where to do you feel it?

The thought of having to create a structure makes me feel anxious, as if I can’t write the book without one, even though I do not know what the structure looks like. I feel it in my belly and shoulders and often my head feels fuzzy. This is the first perspective about the challenge. Your turn.

3. What are some other ways to look at the challenge?

Some other perspectives for me might be: write spontaneously without a structure; let the structure unfold as I write; finish writing and build the structure at the end; ask someone to write the structure for me; draft my own structure as best I can and not be precious about it.
Over to you. Try and come up with at least five other perspectives. If you’re struggling with five, stick with it. If you have more than five, that’s fine. How does each perspective make you feel?

4. Which perspective speaks to you loudest, feels right or better than the rest?

My experience tells me this is often one the latter choices. The ones that are not at the forefront of your mind. These deeper choices often resonate with core values and so are more powerful and motivating.

5.  Make a choice you can say “yes” to.

If I chose “write spontaneously without a structure” it means I feel free to write about what ever I like when I decide. I can relax into the creative process which means things flow better.
Make your choice, then ask what you notice this choice means you are saying “yes” to. The choice gives you freedom to do things in a certain way and be a particular version of your self. It gives power to you to notice and name these things.

6. Look at what you are you saying “no” to.

My choice allows me to say no to feeling tied down to rigid thinking and having doubt about the creative process. It is as important to be aware of what you are letting go as well as what you are embracing. It allows you to grow and become a new version of your self that will take on this challenge with new vigour, enthusiasm and heart.

7. What action will you take?

From this place, you can take action effectively, powerfully and confidently. Make yourself accountable to someone so that it is harder to let yourself off the hook. After all, this is going to build your business and the clients you have dedicated yourself to serving.

8. Praise yourself.

When you begin to take action, do the things you have committed to and become the person you promised you would become. Be proud, celebrate and affirm the steps you have taken to grow your business and your self.

targetI hope these steps help. This is an on- going process that grows as you grow. The process can be challenging and it can also be fun.

If I can be of any assistance in this process, I am happy to contribute some free coaching time to members of the Drive Network.

Contact David at http://www.potentialitycoaching.co.uk/ on Facebook  and @PotentialityC